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We hope Queerly Complex Creative Coaching moves you further down your path of liberation from shame, punishment, domination, and oppression.
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Queerly Complex Creative Coaching specializes in helping Queerdos and our comrades explore your complex feels so you can more creatively express your radical beliefs in ways that better reflect who you be. We know how to listen deeply for what’s said and left unsaid, ask just the right questions that reveal insights hidden in plain sight, and offer solutions that artfully move you towards your visions and dreams.
Our Creative Coaching starts with a 20 minute Intake Call to assess your needs, wants, and desires. By the end of the call, we will know whether Queerly Complex Creative Coaching is a match for your current situation or project. With deep connections to a wide range of consultants, business partners, and independent artists, even if we are not a match you will leave the Intake Call with leads on how to move from where you are to where you want to be.
If we are a match, the next step on our journey will be a 60-75 minute Dreaming Session. During this Dreaming Session, we will discover a central line of inquiry or a seed for dreaming. Then, Wyman will walk you into a dream space, which you will be in for 10 minutes. You will then be invited to document your dream, thoughts, connections, or lines of inquiry. Wyman will then ask a series of questions about your experience. This process always reveals creative prompts or actions that will help you take steps towards your dreams and desires in a manner aligned with your identities, cultures, and values.
Queerly Complex Creative Coaching is built upon two and a half decades of providing high quality, easy going, and adaptive creative consulting services to artists, musicians, filmmakers, journalists, dancers, gallerists, designers, educators, counselors, social workers, organizational leaders, activists, movement organizers, and entrepreneurs by queer, anti-binary San Francisco artist, educator, and facilitator Jason Wyman. Wyman uses an intuitive, emergent approach that offers concrete & creative tactics that move clients from dreams to actions to realities.
All our clients gain a queer perspective of their situation, issue, problem, or question and leave feeling heard, seen, and valued.
Some results of Creative Coaching services include:
"Jason’s infectious energy & kindest vibe drew me to them instantly. I knew this person is going to be a part of my life for a very long time, and working with Jason has been like my mind has a voice now. They listen deeply and reflect on my thoughts."
"Thank you so much. I feel so much better because my head was spinning. I had no space to think. The thoughtfulness that you just put into our conversation requires a different type of brain. Thank you for asking me accessible questions, for holding space, for seeing me."
"Jason really, truly, listens. They listen close for the details & parameters of the projects I create. They understand the complexity of my personhood & how that affects the project. They can see the big or broader implications & potentials that I’d not thought about. From there comes a fabulous flow of great ideas & plans."
"Jason is a gifted art advisor & an attentive listener with a unique ability to help you to effectively organize your thoughts. Sessions with Jason were something completely different - dreaming sessions that helped me to uncover some entirely new paths, & conversations that profoundly moved some creative blocks."
The Queerly Complex Method of Listening for Deep Connection has been developed, refined, and honed over two decades of practice by Jason Wyman. It draws from pedagogies of appreciative inquiry, question circles, participatory action research, active listening, and bearing witness.
The Queerly Complex Method of Listening for Deep Connection is evolving and will continue to both expand and be edited. This is and will always be a work-in-progress.
When listening for connection, it is important to always begin with the mantra, "I don't know." This places you, the listener, in a space of curiosity and openness rather than in a role of expert. Yes, you may be an expert in your field and have a wealth of knowledge. To listen deeply requires the humility to know your wealth may have no value to whom you are listening. And if you want to listen, maybe setting aside what you think you know and embracing the Unknown will help you see, hear, and witness what's truly being said, instead of what you want, need, or desire to hear.
I am an artist, and while I value coaches and therapists, I am not one. I most certainly am not qualified to judge someone, either. What I can offer is to be your champion and cheerleader.
Too often, when we share something instead of a champion or cheerleader, we get a critic. The critic can be helpful at times, but often is a hindrance when trying to figure something out, trying something new, or examining your ways of being. The critic silences inquiry and introspection.
A champion or cheerleader, instead, offers encouragement through the process of inquiry and introspection because the listener knows this process is already fraught with self doubt / self sabotage and major structural inequities. Just being in this process is reason enough to celebrate and cheer.
When I listen for connection, I am there to be your champion and cheerleader so you build more trust and confidence in your self, your own knowledge, and your own way of being. I am not listening to promote my way of seeing / experiencing the world. I am there listening at your request because you want to better understand how you experience the world.
And I am here to celebrate, honor, lift up, and champion you on this journey.
The art of listening is the art of searching for understanding and meaning-making. Humans naturally want to better understand our world by making-meaning out of our lived experience. This can become a vicious feedback loop in which our understanding influences our experience which reinforces how we make meaning out of those experiences and in turn affirms our preconceived (aka previously held) understanding.
When I listen for connection, I am listening not just to what is being stated, I am listening for their understanding of this cosmos and their place in it and how they make meaning out of their lived experiences and positionality. By listening for what's beyond the surface, I can offer better questions that can disrupt or upend patterns of belief that may be getting in the way of better understanding what's truly being said in the moment.
Additionally, listening requires watching for body language because more is being said than simply words. It is important to remember that tone and qualities of voice are also a part of the body, and as a result the speaker might not be fully aware of how their voice is revealing something other than what they are stating.
As listeners, it is important that we do not read into understanding, meaning-making, or body language. Rather, our role is to be humble and uncertain in what we are experiencing and witnessing. Minimizing our personal reactions to qualities of body language that might seem peculiar, out-of-the-ordinary, or reactive to us is crucial in being a good listener.
Instead of reacting, we should be able to respond with openness, curiosity, and a willingness to be wrong. This means doing the work necessary on our selves to be able to notice our patterns of behavior that serve to shut down conversation and interrupting them when they, inevitably, show up.
As you are listening, frequently repeat back what you think you hear. Preface this by stating, "What I think I heard you say was, ...," and then end with, "Is that correct? Or is there anything that should be edited?"
There can be disconnects between what someone thinks they said and what someone thinks they heard. These disconnections are natural, but they often go unnamed, especially early on. This becomes a major problem in listening for deeper connection because the moment what you think you are hearing disconnects from what the speaker thinks they are saying, you disconnect from the speaker's reality. The longer you go in different directions the harder it will be to find commonality in understanding.
This can easily be remedied by checking in with the speaker and confirming with them about what you think you heard or observed regularly throughout the conversation. Doing this also invites opportunities for the speaker to have their own ah-ha moments or even discover questions they need to ask themselves.
Repeating back is a very useful tool for discernment, yours and the speaker's. You are discerning whether or not your interpretation of the conversation is accurate, and, therefore, to what extent your bias is coloring your view of what it is the speaker is saying. The speaker is discerning whether you are receiving what they are sharing accurately, and, therefore, whether or not they are communicating effectively. It is a process of interrupting possible bias and assumptions from destroying trust in each other and one's self.
Instead of offering advice, offer stories of connection between what's been repeated back and other's experiences. This includes referencing authors or books you've read, videos or performances you've watched, podcasts or music you've listened to, etc. It also includes sharing stories of your own lived experience that in some way offer an intersectional or divergent perspective on what's already been discussed.
The goal here is not to convince the speaker of something but to offer opportunities for the speaker to accept, reject, adapt, or integrate the stories and connections you shared free of your judgment on their importance, necessity, or helpfulness. Yes, you have opinions and interpretations, and that is what you are sharing here. It is also true that those things are insignificant to the speaker outside of how important they are to the speaker. And it is not your place to tell them what is important.
See Tip #1. Even when you think you know and you think you have clarity between one another and you think you see a connection, tell yourself, "I don't know."
This mantra is the most central tenet in listening for deep connections because the body and all of its various parts and pieces that work independently and interdependently with each other come with biases that color how we experience, and thus interpret, this world and this cosmos. By staying friends with the Unknown and letting go of certainty, we become ready to witness truths that come from deeper within our DNA and cut through the generations of human superiority complex that has placed us and our gods on top of the cosmological pyramid.
Always and in all ways returning to the Unknown reshapes your entire cosmos; it places you in uncertainty, making you ready for anything.
Queerly Complex understands that life happens, things come up, and there can be unexpected emergencies. We also know that people change their mind on what kinds of support they need, want, and desire. We seek to be flexible and understanding while also firm in our value.
To that end, here is our cancellation policy for any and all services.
If you cancel up to 48 hours before your appointment, there are no cancellation fees and no obligation to continue any services.
If you cancel between 48 hours and 24 hours before your appointment, arrangements can be made to reschedule at a time that is convenient to both you and Jason. If you choose not to reschedule, you owe half the fee. Intake & Chaos Poetry Sessions are paid in advance, so a refund of half will be given. Dreaming & Creative Coaching Sessions are paid after the session. You will owe half the amount. If you cancel the Rescheduled Session at any time, payment is due for the full Session.
If you cancel with 24 hours or less before your appointment, you owe the entire fee. Intake Sessions & Chaos Poetry Sessions are paid in advance, so no refund will be given. Dreaming and Creative Coaching Sessions are paid after the session. You will owe the full amount. If you would like to reschedule the session, another Session fee will be assessed.
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